Integrity quotes: Building honesty and trust
"Parents who exercise integrity may not be able to give their children everything they want to have, but they will learn all they need to know"
"Strong character developed during peaceful moments will hold fast under raging pressure"
"Seeing your kids make right decisions opens the door to more responsibility and privelege"
Modeling integrity in an imperfect world
"A parent who does not waver from their beliefs can be assured that their children are being taught"
"Promises kept raise the trust level of kids for their parents"
"Respecting the rights and possessions of others teaches the art of elevating others for their benefit"
It is also important to be honest about how things are in the home. Do our values actually take priority and become evident in the life of each child. Or are they just a vision to be put into practice at some time in the future?
Children are born selfish and self centered. Lying, cheating, and stealing can easily be picked up at a young age. Being disrespectful, defiant, and disobedient is something that is just around the corner. Treating others fairly without teasing or bullying. How can a child learn integrity and honesty.
Integrity should be an integral part of each parent's lifestyle. The best way for teaching values to children is through everyday passion and example. This includes on the job, work done around the home, and dealing with neighbors and friends. Consistent behavior, aligned with principles, is what is needed. Making it a practice to tell the truth, the whole truth, without deception.
Life lessons are a critical part of child development. The question is: When facing severe tests requiring integrity, will you child know the difference between right and wrong and hold strong to their beliefs? Repeated failure of parents can tear down trust in relationships and lead to a lack of integrity. This is often difficult to rebuild.
Definition of Integrity
What are the most important things in life? Is it money? Is it a person or persons? Is it my Faith? Is it meeting the needs of others? Is it education or a job? Is it being a good person or serving others? Personal integrity is essential in this process. What is integrity? An online dictionary definition of integrity is included here. The meaning of integrity is the opposite of hypocrisy which is "Say one thing, but do something else". My words should match my thoughts and intentions.
The following integrity quotes can be an encouragement to both parents and children.
"Integrity is present if you do the right thing when no one else is present"
"Integrity is doing the right thing even if you will suffer loss"
"Integrity is staying with a problem until it is resolved"
Here are same examples of quotes about children growing up being taught principles of integrity.
"Sharing toys as a child may lead to giving to the poor later"
"The punishment for dishonesty as a youth should be a painful reminder to be truthful. Remembering saves great embarrassment"
High integrity implies high moral values. True values are what drives us minute by minute. It influences thought processes, decision making, and direction. Some values may be ingrained and are manifested without thinking. There are other noble attributes that we aspire to, but just have not been able to make them part of our lives. This is what we want to teach our children.
"A good report gives one a chance to produce another "
"They are becoming trustworthy when you can go out on a date and leave your kids at home"
"Children who truly care about what they are doing will not let things drop"
For kids, it would be nice to have the assurance that when we are not around their actions and decisions will still be sound. We would like a high level of certainty that they will conscientiously carry out their tasks and responsibilities to the best of their ability. Their desire would be to finish completely the work in front of them.
When they say that they will do something, they commit to it. You can believe in them. They are accountable to those in authority and can be depended on to handle unexpected hurdles and roadblocks. Kids with integrity will stay devoted to assignments until done. They report back with results in a reasonable fashion. They are credible and believable.
Putting appropriate integrity quotes out in front of us could be a valuable reminder. In addition, trust and honesty are closely related to integrity. Here are some trust quotes specifically applicable for children:
Set aside time to assess what your true values are. Since children are impacted by both parents, it is important to have both partners participate. This will also give you a sharper picture of what is real. The following steps will help clarify values for both partners:
"When a parent is pleasantly surprised, you know that expectations have been exceeded"Doing a good job with assigned tasks is a great training opportunity for kids. The tendency is to do the minimum or nothing at all. Developing the discipline and perseverance to complete tasks with the best effort possible is not natural. The issue of integrity comes when no one is watching. Will there be full effort? Will the task be done with diligence, focus, and enthusiasm? Will laziness, boredom, and idleness take over?Kids need to know when the result or outcome is not up to speed. Fair consequences will teach valuable lessons that will stay with them. It is also good to set reasonable expectations as well.
"The gritting of teeth is a sign that progress is not where it should be"
"If there are no consequences, the apathy will continue"
The work may be too boring or just be a grind. The skill to do the job may require more talent. People often look for ways to get out of the work or pass it on to someone else. This also happens to adults on a far too frequent basis. It is all the more critical to teach children the importance of completing their work and doing the very best job they can.
Here are some integrity quotes about effort, commitment, and concentration:
"Heaven is asking your kids to take a break and they don't want to"
"Being preoccupied about having fun will tend toward sloppy work"
"Exhaustion is a condition that should be recognized and then applauded"
Values should be reviewed honestly and with an open mind. Make a list of values indicate the level of importance. These can be specific activities (ie. sport, family time, church) that are important. There are also general human attributes (ie. courage or commitment) that are held in high esteem. The list can be long. The following table is a sample of characteristices and personal values that are related to a person of integrity:
Go through the list a denote for each item whether you always exhibit the characteristic, sometimes, or never. Review this list and select 10 or 12 that you honestly feel relate to your life and are important to you. They should define who I am and what is most important to me. Have your spouse build the same kind of list independently. From the list above, you can see that most of the qualities listed are key in relationships.
Sort by importance and prominence
Discuss with spouse
Discuss together whether the values are reality. Do they line up with the way we act? Are they what we want or are they part of our life now? Is there a conflict between values, such as family and work.
This is a good opportunity to evaluate and make adjustments. There are family values that are important, but have not been acted upon. It may require changing priorities and taking definite actions to change course. This may take courage and humility.
Build one joint list
The message sent to children will now be clearer. It is good to establish important values early because there are other influences that children face that impact attitudes and direction. Television, movies, friends, school, and neighborhood can be major contributors in their lives. Be an example of integrity. Use integrity quotes to reenforce.
Family time and parent interaction are critical. Parents may have the most noble and impressive lifestyle, but the children suffer with lack of contact. Teaching children family values is often lacking in today's fragmented society.
Interpersonal relationships and treating others fairly. There is a temptation for kids to have favorites and not recognizing the contributions of others. Children need to be impartial. Fairminded people will treat others justly, giving them what they deserve. A person of integrity will also stand up for what is right. When a person has a choice in how to treat an enemy, and chooses to treat them fairly, that is true integrity. Here are some examples of integrity quotes related to fairness:
"Making unpopular choices that benefit others is real integrity"
"Giving credit to a competitor shows maturity"
Some children are outgoing and engage others easily. More introverted children may have a harder time. As kids grow up, they develop their own perferences and unique style of dealing with their environment. Personality tests designed for children can help parents work more effectively with their children in the areas of friendships and relationships. Murphy-Meisgier type indicator for children is part of the Meyers-Briggs family of assessments. Developing people skills is an important complement to family values and being socially responsible.