Priceless humor is truly priceless. Life is filled with serious issues. Tense situations that require immediate attention and quick decisions. Often associated with challenges are disagreements and hard feelings. If these things are typical of your conversations with your spouse, there will probably be other problems as well. Finding time to break away from pressure is essential. You need to let go and just have fun.
Take opportunities for fun...
This may seem difficult in a fast paced world, but it is necessary for your health and sanity. Make having fun be serious business. Select activities where you can relax and forget about the issues that drag you down. The emphasis should be on enjoying each others company and having a good time. Schedule time regularly and frequently. Let the so called "pressing" issues wait and allow for lighthearted conversation.
Learn to laugh together and spend time being together. Your marriage will become healthier and the so called priceless humor in your life will provide great benefits.
Ways to build humor into your relationship...
Some people seem to naturally be able to attract others through humor.
1. Start small to test response: Try to be sensitive about when to use humor. Your spouse will not always be in the mood for this. The stress of the day may require more quiet than noise. There may also be pressing duties that are keeping attention elsewhere. Be alert to these issues and even offer to help. Check your partners response to lighthearted comments and let it build from there.
2. Find out what triggers laughter: Some subjects are just off limits. If your partner is passionate about something or is driving hard toward a goal, this may not be an appropriate subject to take lightly. Casual observations of things going on around you may be a good starting point. Examples could be something you see on TV or the construction workers next door.
3. Make fun of yourself: Everyone trips over themselves occasionally. When accidents occur it is easy to come down on yourself and shrink away from those around you. Instead, if you can laugh at yourself, it spills over to others and creates a more relaxed, happy environment. You are the one doing the lighthearted berating, so no one else gets offended.
4. Make fun of external actions: It is good to steer clear of sensitive topics that your spouse might take too personally. Appearance, bad habits, relatives, and religion are just a few examples. The actions of a stranger you see on the street or a public political figure would be better targets. If could also be a problem in your neighborhood or city that is not being addressed.
5. Think of funny scenarios in advance: The best humor is often impromptu or at least appears that way. Some people can instantly see the humor in something and are quick minded enough to make it come out funny. Others, however, are not so fast. It is not wrong to spend time thinking about what humor or lighthearted comments might help your spouse relax and temporarily forget about the stresses of life.
6. Draw Funny conclusions: Taking reality and twisting it around can be very humorous. If you are a quiet, reserved person, you could say, "Being the great leader that I am, I was able to get the agreement of the group". Another example might be when someone is holding an ice pack on your back. You could say, "Are you giving me the cold shoulder?" These type of comments usually bring laughter and can brighten the day of a downtrodden spouse.
7. Memories from the past: Recalling past experiences can be a source of entertainment and fun. Sometimes difficult situations seem softer as time passes. An event may have been traumatic when it occurred, but now you can laugh at each other the mistakes made and the bad decisions that put you in a bind. When you can find humor in a negative past, you are more free to enjoy the future.
8. Smile and make eye contact: Your countenance is open and bright their is a better chance that your spouse will be encouraged to go in this direction as well. When you genuinely smile at a person, the chances are that they will smile back. When your partner sees you in a happy mood, they will be more ready to hear humorous things. They may even begin to expect it.
