Quotes about children: Encouragement to discipline
Do not neglect parenting discipline
Child discipline can be very challenging for parents. There is the desire to do it right, but often a quick, emotional response is given for wrong attitudes or behaviors.
Having a happy home life is the vision of most parents when they start a family. This includes nurturing solid family bonds, building harmony among family members, and helping children to be well adapted in school and within other life situations. The cost in time and effort to make this happen is usually higher than anticipated. The following discipline quotes about children give insight into some of the issues facing parents and their children.
"Discipline is more painful if it is not fully implemented. Half way measures require more work and things have to be done over again"
"The stress of discipline is not fun, but that does not mean that there is not a happy home"
"A child should not dictate how and when discipline will occur. Parents should never leave the drivers seat
Quotes about discipline and Children...
Unmet expectations of parents
When couples have children, there is often the assumption that their kids will have high character values and act accordingly. It becomes clear very early that kids are selfcentered, lack willpower, neglect responsibilities, and allow for a certain amount of disorder around themselves. They make mistakes and interact with others in inappropriate ways.
This can be both discouraging and aggravating to a mother or father who expects good behavior. A parents irritation may come out in the following ways:
Severely criticize the child for the mistake that was made.
Punish or penalize as a price to be paid for the bad behavior.
Use language or actions to berate the child, cutting them down by hurtful words.
Place blame for the improper actions. Condemning them to carry the guilt of the situation.
Scold intensely with the purpose of humuliating the child.
It is important to develop an understanding perspective concerning your child's behavior. Helping children with the process of learning to become mature, well adjusted adults takes patience, determination, and a gentle firmness. It is not easy. Growth opportunities will occur at home, in the neighborhood, on the sports field, and at school. Be ready and available with correction, training, and nurturing.
So what is discipline, properly administered?
Disciple in its simplest form is to teach a child how to learn self control, to recognize what are acceptable limits, to know the boundaries of where to stop. To learn these things, a child does not need to chastised or put down. Instead, what they need is correction, training, and nurturing. When they do something well, they should get plenty of compliments and praise. This does not mean that it will be sugar coated all the time. Sometimes it will be hard for kids to hear the truth about what they are doing. Discipline takes a firm, consistent hand in each child's life.
Child Discipline: A critical part of child development
Children are born with a self centered nature and will make choices that can hurt themselves and others. Some actions are just plain wrong and need correcting. Your kids may be high spirited, stubborn, or strong willed. Troubled kids may be defiant and rebellious, challenging authority.
In addition, children often show poor judgement when picking friends or making important decisions. There is immaturity and selfishness. When there is work to be done, the nature tendency is apathy and laziness. There are temptations all around that look very attractive. Peer pressure can blur the lines between right and wrong.
Parents need to realize that discipline is a necessary responsibility and that it should be done carefully and effectively. This is preparation for future adulthood.
Discipline can be a battle
Children don't naturally follow along with their parents best intentions. There is often confrontation. There may be a show contempt for a parents ideas or demands. Children question the need for rules and boundaries in their lives. Kids looks for ways to test the resolve of mom and dad.
This is all part of child discipline and growing up. Parents can not, however, do a half hearted job or hope that the problems just go away. Child discipline is a necessity. Parents need to stay strong.
As mentioned above, children will often take the wrong path, have poor attitudes, and mistreat those around them. I would like to think that my children are good, but their natural tendency is to be selfish and self-serving. Troublesome child behavior includes disrespect, disobedience, greed, insensitivity to others, dishonesty, anger and temper tantrums. Self control, self centeredness, and procrastination also need attention. Learning the lessons that discipline teaches often is not important to children.
These traits are all on display before the parents. The responsibility before the parents may seen daunting. Having the discernment and wisdom to help your children through childhood and the teen years does not come easy. Children need this. They need to know the security of boundaries and the consequences of improper actions.
Hindrances and barriers to effective discipline
Trying to correct these areas is not easy. It is hard, intense work. The children don't naturally cooperate. A child may be rude to a brother or sister. This leads to turmoil, friction, confusion, and anger. It is easy for all involved to get frustrated and angry. A swift approach may bring a temporary peace, but the wrong behavior is usually repeated. Spanking children will add more turmoil and still not clarify for the child what is expected and needed.
The following table recaps some of the issues and responses that are less than ideal:
Responses to discipline challenges
Issue
Response
Strong willed child.
Give in or be inconsistent with behaviors.
Parents in disagreement.
Take softer position to preserve unity.
Children have no family responsibilities.
Parents cover all needs.
Apathetic parent.
Discipline passed over to dominate parent and is inconsistent.
Not enough time to deal with issues.
Quick, inadequate responses. Anger and misunderstanding.
Repeated failure or perceived lack of success.
Parents don’t give direction and/or don’t know how to build character.
Children lack confidence and direction.
Parents not engaged.
Children having few boundaries.
Parents don’t challenge actions because of lack of confidence or apathy.
Children not getting along with each other or being disruptive.
Parents yelling out angry responses to quell the children.
A child who refused to obey.
Lack of energy to go through the steps to properly teach and discipline.
Children are not doing their chores.
Parents threaten, but don't follow through on the consequences.
Disrespect is shown to parents.
Parents quickly spank the child and speak harshly.
Quotes about Children...Parenting perspective
Parents need clear, definite values and then resolve to work through negative issues and feedback. Often the values of parents spill over to their children. Achievement and wealth building become more important than interpersonal relationships and than doing the right thing. Teaching, instructing, correcting, and showing consistant behavior and character is what kids need, not spanking children to get compliance.
How to discipline children: Increased focus
Close attention is required. Elevating parenting and discipline implies more time and focus on children. This can be difficult for busy parents. It takes extra time and effort to teach good behavior and even more time to administer consequences for the inevitable bad behavior. Often parents become irritated because they have to take more time way from more (so called) "important" activities.
The following steps have been helpful and effective in working through the issues:
1. Make room in schedule to be able to work with children. Block out time to deal with character building issues. This may mean less time on hobbies or less time on the job!
2. Don't rush through the issue. Be prepared to take the appropriate time - now or soon. It is not an inconvenience, but very important for positive growth.
3. Focus on the immediate issue and on the child. Take away distractions. Make sure they understand the value of making the necessary changes.
4. Remove anger from the equation. Discipline is not punishment. The issue is worth dealing with. Don’t tear down, but build up.
5. Make sure that your child understands the problem and takes ownership. As a parent, don’t allow for one way communication. Make sure that the child gives feedback.
6. Clear, definite consequences of their actions. Their actions bring on the consequences. Follow through. Be firm in the midst of protest.
7. Use positive reinforcement. When your children respond discipline and exhibit good behavior, let them know you appreciate this.
Children fail all the time. This is part of growing up. Discipline is not to tear them down but to assist in helping them mature. Discipline is a major part of overall child development.
Quotes about children
can be valuable for parents struggling with behavior problems. Applying discipline at the right times is not easy. Sometimes parents get discouraged. Here are some additional quotes about children to help give further perspective.
